What Tinder Taught Me (A Perspective From A Traditional Dater)

I am a traditional man when it comes to dating. I think no matter how advanced technology gets, we will still have to revert back to traditional means of meeting that person.

The experience of dating is very much a face-to-face one.

The question is, how can technology such as dating apps help achieve whatever it is we want out of meeting people of the opposite sex?

Tinder tips to get more dates

Are dating apps helping us find true love?

So with a lot of reluctance, I download Tinder on my phone and started swiping away.

It was not long before getting matches, but I still felt uncomfortable to start any dialog with a person I have not even met.

I’ll be honest, for me it is very much about meeting the person first and developing it from there, but with technology you can practically connect with people you couldn’t otherwise have done before the world of mobiles and the Internet.


Do not get me wrong, I am not some kind of hermit, I have modern friends who helped me with this new form of dating and each of them told me something interesting… If I wanted success I would have to improve Tinder’s profile associated to my account.

Here is what they taught me.

No Selfies

Who knew, but apparently women get a negative reaction towards selfies.

Professional Photos

Ok, there is not need to go to a studio and get some pro shots down, however, good photographs is a means of presenting yourself… very much like dressing up during an actual date (which brings me onto the next point).

Present Yourself Well

Be well dressed on your photos. Remember, Tinder is all about judging you through your photos and a small bio. It is important to come across as confident and attractive.

Goofy Photos

Look, you know the ones I mean. It might be funny amongst your friends, but this is a person who knows nothing about you and most likely will consider you a clown… just stop it!

The bottom line is, if you are serious about finding someone in Tinder, you must be serious about sending your message across.

So what did I learn from all this? Well I could not get myself to actually go on a date due to being too traditional, however, I did make the effort to communicate with some women on Tinder and the moment I made the improvements mentioned above, I found more women responding to me…. result!

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